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Updated: Mar 24, 2023

What is self-mastery?

To me it is:

· Stepping into my greatness

· Living a great life and being true to who I am

· Dependability

I am stepping into my full self and not being small. Living a great life and creating amazing memories. Being dependable is when I say I am going to do something…I do it. That is self-mastery.

Why strive for and have self-mastery?

· Happiness

· Fulfillment

· Legacy

Happiness is smiling, enjoying, and looking forward to things.

Fulfillment is knowing I have had a great day and have made a big difference and that I have touched or connected with people.

Legacy is something that I create every day. Therefore, I know that when I am gone (and hopefully sooner) that I know what I did. I am going to leave a legacy that my kids can be proud of and inspire them to figure out what their legacy is.

How do I figure out and master self-mastery?

· Clarity

· Confidence

· Commitment

Clarity is that I know my why, my what, and my how. I am clear on why I am here, on what I do, and how I am going to do it. For me, my why is to elevate the entrepreneurial spirit through self-mastery and connection. My what is that I grow entrepreneurs, grow kids, and grow community. That is my filter to determine whether to pursue an opportunity or not. My how is my great gift. Great gift is something that I do fantastically and gives me energy. I listen for opportunities for growth, I simplify, I connect and inspire action toward a greater future today.

Confidence is that I am still learning a lot about myself, and I call that the Life Ladder. The Life Ladder is spirit, health, craft, relationships, and community. I need to focus on what matters most on those rungs of the ladder. So, every time I have an opportunity I call that a wall. I can put my ladder against the wall, and I can climb to the top. If it is the right ladder…fantastic! If it is not, I have the confidence to jump and I can go find another wall to lean my ladder on. Every time I put my ladder against a different wall I am strengthening the five rungs. I am confident that I can jump, and I am confident that I can continue to climb and I keep improving.

The third thing is commitment. This is the discipline, the practices, and the habits that I can put in place that I can build upon. I check in every morning and do what I call the 331 check-in and share it with my team. I also do a weekly Take-5 check-in where I can get some of the stuff that is going on in my head and in my heart out. I have quarterly things that I do with my spouse and my team.

What commitment can you make to build more structure, habits, and practices?

That is my definition of self-mastery and it has helped me a TON to realize what matters most, clarify who I am, follow my North Star, and essentially, live a great F’ing life.


The core of what we do at iMatter is help you shift your mindset, realize what matters most, get clear on who you are, and learn how to truly live your North Star. We offer community, a safe space, and inspiration for Visionaries that are craving exponential growth and driven to expand their lives.

No matter where you are in the world, iMatter will help you gain clarity, be fulfilled, and feel connected to help you make a huge impact within yourself, your family, and your community. And by the way, as you step into your greatness you will have a ton of fun along the way…



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