Why Therapy?
Wednesday, September 30, 2009 at 01:35PM |
Matt Dibble Who needs a therapist when you have great friends and great relationships? We pay money to have someone sit and listen to what we're saying. To what end? For starters, we get to hear ourselves talk, which leads to understanding what the inner dialogue is, the frustrations, the dreads, the ah-has, the negative or positive thoughts. And, as we hear ourselves, we come to realizations, and the listener is a mirror and a presence.
Why not create friendships to have these conversations and eliminate the therapy? What a concept, right? Better yet, develop a group of people, a peer group, a tribe, where one can share these keys to growth; anger, fear and frustration. The key to a great relationship is to have some structure around it where everyone feels heard and has a safe space for everyone to talk. Try it. Set the boundaries and grow from it. Practice the tools of having a great relationship; confidentiality, listening, safe space, speaking from the I. These skills help us in those fiery, deep times, in which our experience and/or the lesson can be lost if the people involved are caught up in the emotion and drama. So, to practice having a great relationship with someone else helps create the ultimate relationship which is our relationship with ourselves.
So let's eliminate therapy, use friends, know who we are, realize what matters the most, and be happy. Cheers to great friends.

Reader Comments (2)
Great points here, Bob.
One thing that iMatter's done for me is to help me realize that my ego often gets in the way of ME creating safe space for others. If I set my ego aside, that gives others the ability to speak to me (safely) without fear of getting their heads ripped off, for lack of a kinder way of saying it :)
It's allowed me to hear some things that aren't always comfortable to hear. It's something I wasn't doing before iMatter and I've benefited greatly because I've been able to grow even more through these safe and honest conversations.
These benefits are so fitting and true, Bob! One of the greatest benefits in creating safe space with a group of friends or tribe that I have found is that you realize you're not alone in your frustrations, fears, or celebrations. There's something awfully comforting in all of this. Saying all your 'stuff' out loud to a group of ears was at first difficult for me. "What would people say or think?" I thought. After hearing my thoughts mirrored with others, or just being able to express mine without judgement gave me the freedom to be me. What a concept! Thanks.